When my kids were toddlers it was fairly easy to make friends with other Mom’s. We would join mommy and me swim classes, a MOMs club, we’d take classes at the local rec center and the list went on and on. There was always something going on that was geared towards small kids and we made a lot of friends that way. We all had that toddler/baby stage in common and could relate to each others struggles. Then all our kids started school. We were in a different school district than all the moms I had met so it was like starting over. As close as I was to those moms we drifted apart as our kids got older and busier.
My friendships shifted when my kids started school and now I was setting up play dates and meeting other moms that way and new friendships were growing. When my kids were 7 and 10 we decided to move from NY to Utah. The neighborhood we moved in to is full of kids and the bonus is that the elementary school and intermediate school are in our neighborhood so all the kids friends are within walking distance of our house! The downside there were no play dates to set up which meant I really don’t know many of my neighbors and it was pretty lonely.
I decided to join a gym and starting meeting people that way and some of my favorite friends I met at the gym! But I still didn’t feel like I had found my tribe of friends. Last year I met my BFF through our husbands, funny how that happens. I can honestly say I’ve not had a BFF since High school. She is amazing and one of those people that even though we are so different we just clicked!
We both started our own business with the same company, she joined under me, and we started building together. It’s kind of our thing! Doing this together brought us even closer together and she just gets me. What happened as we worked together to grow our businesses we started meeting other people in the same company and friendships started to blossom. I had only talked to most of these girls online, however, when we all got together at a conference this past fall it was like I had known them forever! We laughed, we cried and we danced!
When I decided to jump into my company with both feet I had no idea the kind of friendships that were waiting for me. I had no idea the kind of support I would receive from girls that would not benefit from my success. They were there to answer questions, bounce ideas off, give suggestions, help figure out a better way to do things. Friends that I lost contact with are now back in my life as we work together and they build their businesses. I can now say I have found my tribe. I am in business for myself but never by myself. My tribe walks along side me daily. This is where I am meant to be.